Speaking at our Annual Ladies Ecumenical Service on Thursday at St Mary’s Priory, Salvation Army Lt Jenni Pryor said,”Are you trying to do for Jesus or are you doing with Jesus. Because that one short word with makes a massive difference”.

Lt Jenni Pryor
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Are you a Mary or a Martha? It’s the big question that gets asked every time we hear this story. There is Martha in the background doing the house work and there is Mary sitting and listening to what is being said.
For all my wanting to be a very spiritual person and behave accordingly I have always been a bit of a Martha! I like to do stuff!
I feel uncomfortable when I am expected to sit and let other people work around me. I feel a deep sense of obligation to get the practical things in life done.
Do I always manage to do this? No, and do I always do it with a joyful heart? Again No, sometimes yes….most of the time even. But do I as a mother of young children and a co leader of a church do I sometimes feel that responsibility that Martha feels here in this story? Oh yes!
The reality for many of us is we all have a bit of a Martha inside us, and that life and all its demands pulls her out of us, bringing her to the surface we have no choice because who else is going to get the job done? Certainly not Mary!
Now Mary, well it seems that somehow she has got it all sorted, she has figured out what that something ‘better’ is and it isn’t found in the kitchen with Martha, but that doesn’t change the fact that the dishes still need doing, the guests need looking after, the nitty gritty of doing life still needs to happen and so on works Martha.
Yet here is Jesus telling us to not be distracted by all that stuff going on around us. You know, as I spent time reading this story a thought came to me.
Maybe this isn’t a story about which sister is right or wrong, maybe Jesus isn’t telling Martha off or saying Mary is better than her like it seems on the surface, Maybe it is about him giving them permission to be who they are.
Now, hospitality was taken extremely seriously in this culture, creating a gathering such as this one would have taken a lot of work and doing it well said a lot about who you were and how important your guests were to you. Presenting poor food or a house that was not swept and ready for your guest was an insult. So with all her rushing around, actually in her own way Martha is trying to honour Jesus.
Then we have Mary sitting next the Lords feet. This was a pretty scandalous action. Not only was she shirking her responsibilities as a woman and leaving her sister to do all the heavy lifting, but she was putting herself in the place of a disciple. Again in this culture only the closest disciples of a Rabbi would sit at their teacher’s feet. So Mary is putting herself in the place of one of the men closest to Jesus and for a woman, an unmarried woman even, this will have been unheard of in these times.
So Martha is in the kitchen, she has been working all day and she comes into the front room, not only is she tired and fed up of being left to sort it all out by herself but she is now also horrified at the picture before her, I mean completely embarrassed and she was probably trying to get her disgraceful sister out of sight and get some order and respectability back into the whole thing.
Now in light of that information try to put yourself in Martha’s shoes for just a second.
How maddening does Jesus’ response seem? You can almost hear her reaction can’t you? I think it sounded a bit like this ‘Calm down?? But the bread needs baking, the table needs laying and the dishes need washing! Somebody has to do all of this or it won’t get done, and none of you will get any dinner if it isn’t me!’
And that, friend’s, is where Martha is getting it wrong.
This whole belief that Jesus needs something from her, that he is relying on only her that is where Martha falls.
How often do we find ourselves running around doing God’s work? Trying to please him? Or to please others? Keeping the church running, giving all of ourselves to make sure the work gets done over and over again? And then be honest with yourself How often do we just feel drained?
You know the Lord does not need you to do anything for him,
Yes he has called us to take part in his mission for the world and for this community and yes he has called us to serve one another but he does not rely on only you to do it.
He has not called us to a great burden of carrying out his purpose in the world but rather given us a golden opportunity to work with him.
So when you find yourself giving and giving and giving, when you find that you are tired and fed up of others not doing their part, when you find yourself in despair because how will all this ever get done?! It is in that moment that Jesus invites us to just stop it.
The point of this story of two sisters is not that Martha is wrong and Mary is the golden sister, Jesus isn’t saying that. What he is doing is simply calling Martha to just be with him for a while, he is telling her that he does not need her to run around for him all the time, he just wants to spend time with her.
The something better that Jesus was referring too, was himself. and that same Jesus held out his hand to Martha, not to scold or rebuke but to invite her to join them.
Now I am not saying that we should all pack up and go home to concentrate on being with Jesus; I am from The Salvation Army. We are known for doing, for being a very practical church and I love that, I being a Martha fit right in!
But Mathew’s Gospel (6 v 33) says ‘But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well’ and just like Mary they will not be taken away from you.
Seek first, then get doing. I am not saying today that we can all sit back and do nothing because Jesus will do his business.
I am just asking you all to consider whether you acknowledge a relationship with Jesus as the something better, and if everything you do, at work, at home and yes here as well is done within that. Are you trying to do for Jesus or are you doing with Jesus. Because that one short word with makes a massive difference.
Jesus called Martha not to stop working but to not let it all get in top of her. As we head into the sweet time that is the summer holiday period where things wind down and we have a chance to stop a little, let’s take time to let our inner Martha rest in Jesus’ presence.
Let’s let ourselves hear Jesus’ permission to rest and prioritise our relationship with him because there will be times that are busy but when we are facing them with Jesus we face them far stronger then facing them alone. Amen.
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Following the service Tea was served in the Priory Centre.

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