As we read in Church today St John’s account of the Marriage at Cana in Galilee Canon Mark Soady launched our Year of Celebration of Marriage with his sermon on this Sacrament.

Fr Mark and the Bishop at the Marriage of Samuel & Katy Patterson (August 2017)
Launching the year Fr Mark heaped praise on those who are able and willing to make the commitment of marriage,” as a single man I look on you with some envy”.
He said:
The Prayer Book tells us that Jesus consecrated marriage by his presence at the Wedding in Cana, but Marriage came late to the list of the seven Sacraments. St Thomas Aquinas spoke of it as a Sacrament in the 13th Century and his view was confirmed by the Council of Trent 300 years later. It differs from the other sacraments in that the couple are here the ‘actual ministers of marriage’ claims the Benedictine Theologian Anselm Grun.
Marriage is called by many names :
- betrothal
- nuptials
- wedlock – from the old English ‘pledge’
- matrimony
The term wedding tends to relate to the actual ceremony and accompanying festivities ie ‘wedding breakfast’, ‘wedding cards’, ‘wedding bells’ ‘wedding cake’.
The English word ‘marriage’ comes from the Old French to ‘give a husband’ .
Marriage is surrounded by ’emotions’, in to this ‘love’ marriage brings a structure to help partners live together appropriately. In the words of the Prayer Book, “..ordained for the procreation of children, to be brought up in he fear and admonition of the Lord and to praise of his holy name”, so although I am not myself married I have experienced married live I have been affected by it, as I was brought up by a married couple.
The Prayer Book also reminds us “…it was ordained for the mutual society, help and comfort that one ought to have for the other”. Very early on in the history of humankind, as we read in the Book of Genesis God created Eve because ‘it was not good that man should be alone”. The Oxford Zoologist Professor JZ Young claims.” We shall never know at what stage of evolution the family emerged”, but it has been there from the very earliest of times.
So does the ancient natural institution of marriage fit into the Christian sacramental system?
Well the prayer book speaks of it ‘ signifying unto us the mystical union that is betwixt Christ and his Church”. No pressure there then!
This is a Sacrament because the couple saying ‘Yes’ to the the vows is something to do with God. We speak of the Service as ‘Holy Matrimony’ because it is a union placed under God’s blessing. While it secures the couples hope that their union will remain inviolable, the realist knows that sometimes that union does break up, but surely that does not mean that at that moment the vows were said truthfully and honestly under God.
I quote Anselm Grun again, ” a sacrament is something Jesus brought about two thousand years ago, which is enacted in our present day world, and which flows in to human activities and achievements now. With regard to marriage, it means that the love which Jesus showed us to the point of death and beyond flows into transform the love of man and woman”.
Christian marriage is mirror of God’s love. The love a husband and wife have for each other enables them (and we who observe it) to get a sense of what Chris’s love actually means.
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